Song of Solomon and love
S of S 2:1-5
(BRIDE) I am the rose of Sharon, and the lily of the valleys. 2(GROOM) As the lily among thorns,
so is my love among the daughters. 3(BRIDE) As the apple tree among the trees of the wood, so is
my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow with great delight, and his fruit was sweet
to my taste. 4He brought me to the banqueting house, and his banner over me was love. 5Stay me
with flagons (raisin cakes), comfort me with apples: for I am sick of love (lovesick).
Love is the motivation behind all he does for his bride, he sees her as special, a flower among thorns,
no competition and he provides everything he can for her. That is love and it should make you sick,
because it’s great and you want more! Love is held high above them, all can see it.
S of S 8:6-7
Set me as a seal upon thine heart, as a seal upon thine arm: for love is strong as death; jealousy is
cruel as the grave: the coals thereof are coals of fire, which hath a most vehement flame. 7Many
waters cannot quench love, neither can the floods drown it: if a man would give all the substance of
his house for love, it would utterly be contemned.
There is a seal, a security in true love. Death is certain and so to should love be. The waters and the
rivers may come, but they won’t overcome love. You can’t buy love.
How does love endure? It’s not because reality ceases to exist, it’s because reality is covered for the
sake of the one loved.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all
things, endureth all things. 8Charity never faileth
If we were to love our spouse as this chapter says love is, marital problems would cease to get the
best of us. This is the great love that God has for us.
1 John 4:7-11
Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and
knoweth God. 8He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love. 9In this was manifested the
love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might
live through him. 10Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to
be the propitiation for our sins. 11Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.
There is a simple test to see whether we love God: do we love others? As we do to the least of these
we do to Him. If we can’t love our spouse, the one we chose to live with, will we really be able to
love others? Love is only unde5rstood through the cross of Christ, the greatest demonstration of love
ever.
Ephesians 5:25-33
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such
thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
This is what Christ did for the church. This is not the example for the wife, this is the example for
the husband. When you decided to get married you put an end to your life. This is not a joke, this is
truth. You give up all so that your wife may become all.
Ephesians 5:28-33
28So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29For
no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they
two shall be one flesh. 32This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see
that she reverence her husband.
Marriage is a demonstration of the Gospel. If we don’t understand the Gospel we won’t understand
marriage and thus will never understand church. The Husbands’ job is to stop living for himself,
pursuing his stuff and provide for his wife. Men like to brag about roughing it going without luxuries
yet why is it so tough to give up all for your wife then? When we become men we put off childish
things. Your wife did not marry a boy, she married a man. Act like it. Wives respect you husband. I
don’t want stuff from my wife, I only want her to listen to me. That’s it.
This is a reflection of Christ and the Church. We don’t save ourselves, Christ did it all for us--
husbands do this for your wife. The Church is to do what Christ says knowing we owe all to Him
and without Him we have nothing. Wives respect you husbands, listen to him. As we dishonor these
commands we make a mockery of the Gospel, of Christ, of the Church and of God’s word.